Valentines day was a while back. And the internet was full of cliche “my hand was my date” references.
Of course it was.
But for those of you who’s hands weren’t your date- there are a lot of avenues you can use to strengthen your relationship with your S/O.
Riding is one of them.
Riding a motorcycle can enrich your life in two ways-
i) You can use it to bond with your partner for a while
ii) You can use it to escape from your partner for a while
You can help solve point number one.
(Only therapy will help solve point number two)
And this article is all about using the best of non-therapy to help you bond better with your better half.
How Riding Together Can Help Your Love Life
i) Riding Is An Incredibly Intimate Experience
When you ride, all that exists are the two wheels you’re on, and the asphalt beneath you.
You’re not using your phone (we hope), you’re not half-assing whatever your activity you’re doing while Bojack Horseman runs in the background- you’re focusing on whatever you’re doing.
When you ride solo, it’s just you with your thoughts while you navigate the road. The sights, the sounds, the inevitable nirvana that comes with hours of being One With The Road- they all add to your thoughts.
Now imagine having someone else in the same position, in your space. Just the two of you.
Relationships that revolve around doing activities together are always stronger. But some activities allow you to connect deeper than others- and riding is one of them.
ii) The Amount Of Money You Save
One of the biggest advantages to getting married is how much money you save.
In the United States, if one of the parties has a higher salary than the other, the money they save in taxes they don’t have to account for by filing a joint file makes them receive a marriage bonus (by averaging out their incomes enough to place the larger earner in a low-tax bracket).
You can extrapolate that to riding motorcycles too.
One of the biggest complaints I hear from my friends in otherwise happy marriages is how much money they spend due to their differently-aligned hobbies and interests. When one of them is all about wooden crafts and the other is all about building a high-end gaming PC, that doesn’t leave a lot of room for overlap in interests to save money.
If both of you picked up riding, however, this would never be the case. You can save a boatload of money by sharing supplies such as extra gear, motorcycle oil, chain wax- and use it to spend that extra money on your wooden crafts and build a high-end gaming PC.
iii) The Memories You Make
You’re going to see a lot of things, meet a lot of people, and make a lot of stops. The memories you make are some that you’re going to carry with you for the rest of your life.
One of the best parts about hanging out with your friends and doing crazy things is knowing you’re going to talk about this crazy stuff later (by exaggerating half of it, but it still).
When it’s someone as close as your partner, however, it’s even better.
I met my ex-girlfriend on a motorcycle tour I had gone on. There were three women and 6 men. And three of the latter were trying to hit on all three of the former.
I was not one of the three (of neither group). But we talked a lot, and connected a lot, and eventually exchanged numbers.
And throughout the relationship that first tour was one of our favorite memories.
But let’s not delve into that. Don’t want to open Pandora’s box.
But while that relationship lasted, the time I had spent with her on that tour was one of the most profound collections of moments I had spent with another person.
And regardless of how our relationship ended up, I’m always grateful for having spent that time with her.
Riding with your significant other is one of the best ways to record and cherish a genuinely life-changing experience.
iv) Your social circles will overlap
Many people tend to compartmentalize their romantic life and their social life.
If you and your partner ride together, however, this won’t have to be the case.
Now, let me make this clear: your life should never revolve around the other person in a relationship, because a healthy relationship is one where both people are independent of each other while adding value to the other person’s life. Unlike what all those crappy movies propagate, a good relationship is not one where you derive value from the other person by being dependent on them.
That being said, overlapping social circles is one of the best ways to bond with your partner even better. Shared interests- and the consequent shared celebration of those interests- is a great way to get closer with another human being, especially one you’re in a relationship with.
v) If you’ve ever felt like the excitement has been gone out of your relationship, something as stimulating as a motorcycle ride is a fantastic way to spruce it up
Last, and most important of all- this is where the four points listed above come in.
Doesn’t matter if the other person is a pillion while you ride, or you both ride the same trail in separate bikes- there’s something inherently thrilling (and sexy) about the freedom offered by a motorcycle.
Sharing that kind of an experience with another person is going to guarantee you take it back home with you. Which is going to do wonders for the both of you, both in and outside of bed.
Riding a motorcycle is an indulging, inherently meaningful experience
And sharing that experience is going to add even more meaning to the person you share it with.
Especially with someone as intimate as a significant other.